Monday, 11 July 2011

DD to School

June 15th 2011, DD's first day to school.The most awaited day of my sweety. Was wondering how she will react to the outside environment. She is never used to being outside home. The day has come, i was making her prepared to go to school. She was pretty excited about that. Got her couple of new dresses, new shoes, new bag and new waterbottle and what more.. she was much excited to carry those things rather than being to somewhere.

First day i was supposed to stay with her for the whole day to make her comfortable. We put in the class where the teacher can speak to her in tamil. Teacher's name was Janani, she seems to be very soft and caring. one way was happy about that.


As it was a montossori method, nothing like a class room environment. very homely and children's seems to be enjoying thier time spent. Each and every child was so excited about doing thier own activity.

First activity to DD was to pick the ball from the picker from the egg tray and put it in some other day. DD did it in a minute and she was happy doing that. Second activity was making chains out of different colors of rings she wasnt so comfortable doing that. Peeping her nose in next girl's activity.


Time passed by and it was snacks time. was wondering how other kids eat on thier own. DD is not used to eating on her own and the most toughest part is making her eat. The same happened that day she didnt eat anything and was watching how other kids were having thier tiffen.
1st day in school was over and we were asked to leave for the day. Made her play in the play area for sometime to make her feel interesting to come to school. And she did enjoy the place and people surrounded by.


Next day, no parents are allowed to go inside the classroom, was scared on DD will be crying when entering school. Once they took her from my hand to near the shoe rack, she started screaming. it was a tough sight to leave her crying so much. Me and sankar was waiting outside to know whether she is comfortable in the class. Sankar never got to see the class and without DD's knowledge he peeped into the class to make sure she is alright and not crying much. Dad was supposed to pick her up that day.


For the next couple of days she was like crying that " School vendam" "Naan schoolukku poga MAtten" and all those drama. From the next week she felt the school to be interesting and was the first person to be ready to school.
Each and everyday i could see her learning new things from school. Now she counts 1,2,3... using her fingers. She says A,B,C,D.. completely. Was trying to dance something and all. Good progress in her. But the only complaint from school is that she is not opening her mouth.


Proud of you dear. This is one more stage of your growth. Great to pen down your stages.. may be once you can read this blog you can know on how much we love you dear..

Wednesday, 1 June 2011

DD's ear piercing ceremony



The long awaited ear piercing ceremony for our sweetheart. I eagerly wanted to see her wearing ear rings. Whenever I get to change my ear rings she will be so excited to get herself wear one. Her most lovely anticipated ceremony was decided to be on May 8th after picking upon so many dates this was the one which was finalized.

Starting from the purchases Sankar was very particular that we give her the best. Started with buying ear ring for her which is supposed to be my dad’s gift. The only Jewellery shop which we always visit is Bhima in Koramangala. One fine Friday me, paapa, sankar and dad went there. The first earring collection was very less of which we selected one. Ear rings which were available there was very different as they will pierce the ear with that itself. Those days we were used to put only studs like star or mottu where the seller girl in the shop confirmed from gold smith that the first ear ring should be of type rings and we end up buying a ring with a pearl in it. It was looking very pretty. I was sure it will look good on her. Dad wanted to buy her a chain too. Next we went to chain section and was looking for different models which are short enough so that she shall wear. We selected three of them and the final choice was left to sankar. He selected the one which was made of gold mottu. It was looking different and good. We were the last to come out of the shop. Got stuck in rain and somehow managed to reach home early.

Next purchase was paavada satta for her. I didn’t wanted to go for Kanchi pattu because we are not anyways gonna wear the paavada satta very often and it is going to be waste of money. Wanted to get a simple readymade one. We went to FM Silks in kormangala just to have a look and feel of paavada. We saw one designer paavada which was pretty costly but Sankar wanted to get that for Divya. We thought it would go very well with her and It did . Stitching that was a very big pain and we were not aware of good tailor around. Atlast went to the Maruthi nagar and got her paavada stitched. They stitched properly as expected.

Purchase for me happened in Karur when we went last time itself. I got a Pattu Saree in Sky blue color. I loved the saree. Went to Megamart and got a shirt and pant selected for Sankar as well. I wanted to get that kinda shirt to sankar. Generally maroon goes good with him.



After all the purchase packed things to travel and started Friday night. It was a good journey as we didn’t feel much difficulty in going by sleeper bus. Reached home by 4.30 AM. We had got a ring for Maama for his retirement. Sankar presented him that and they were happy. Had a chat for sometime. Mom and dad went to sleep. We were killing time to await the morning.

Saturday went just like that. Dad and sankar went to pazhamudhir choolai to buy fruits for seer. We went to Mariamman temple to pray before we leave to get her ear pierced. Night we were planning to sleep early as we need to wake by early morning 4 AM. Had a small nap for some time and I woke up exactly by 4. Everyone got ready grabbed up all the relatives on the way and then started the journey.


Before going to temple wanna finish off the breakfast. Had the same in the usual hotel and reached temple. There was already many ear piercing and mottai happening for other families. As soon as we reached we made things ready for her hair shaving. Got her head shaved in the lap of her grandpa. She didn’t even cry a bit I was very happy to see that. One old man did that very slowly and she didn’t get hurt so much. We didn’t force to take all the hair in the forehead and all. Made her bath and was getting ready for the ear piercing.


Dad gave us the seer, ear studs and chain after which the asari came to pierce the ear. I was so scared to see her ear getting pierced. Changed her dress to paavada satta. She was looking pretty in that paavada satta and mottai . The ear piercing is to be done with the same stud and as the asari was not so used to this kind of studs it was really a painful task. After marking up the exact point to be pierced, the fellow started piercing the ear, DD was screaming of pain and I couldn’t see her crying and I was crying along with her. Everyone was teasing me but I couldn’t stop crying. Atlast it was all done and it was pierced in the expected point. Good to see DD with ring. We had offered special pooja and had nice darshan and started back to Karur.


Maama wanted to go to Vekkaliyamman temple. Went there had a nice abhishegam dharshan, had lunch after that and started back to Karur. Was a tiring journey as we woke up early morning and no sleep the day before the ceremony too. Reached karur by 4 PM. Rested for some time and started packing back to Karur.

DD was very excited to see her ear pierced and was looking into the mirror and was saying “Valikkala.. Azhaga irukku” and was saying “Thaatha motta adichitanga.. mudi varum.. ”.. So innocent talk.. Luv u sweety.. Loving your sweet speech..

Monday, 14 March 2011

DD is grown up now to school..

So many stages of DD has passed by now.. It took so long for me to write on one more on her stage..

Now, if i look at DD she is grown up a lot.. She can realize the facts now.. she can frame sentences now..she can say what she likes and what she dislikes now.. she can tell what she wants now..She now demands for her needs.. she understands the daily routine.. she can tell what all tastes she likes..

I believe it to be right time for her to be into school.. though Sankar is totally against in putting her into school at this early age, i am too much into it because i dont want her to be a scape goat when she is into school when all other kids know more the things than her..

I didnt want her to be so good in academics as her father but want her to be much into the activities and motor development skills..We did a survey on the play schools near by and got one to be good among others.. "


The Little Feat.." As the name says i believe it would be a good start for my cute little pie to start her schooling with.. Wanna bring her communication skill very well which this school is much into..

They are more into the Phonetics and social behaviour rather than the academics which is what my expectation is too..

Just imagining the day when i am gonna send her to school.. Its gonna be very special for me.. Special day for my Special Kid..

Waiting for the day dear..

Luv u so much..

Friday, 11 March 2011

3 Years being with you seems to be 30 Years living together dear..

Deeply, Madly


Our wedding anniversary brings to mind
The happiness and joy you’ve brought to me,
Sweet memories--the laughter and the tears,
Devoted love you give abundantly.

The place I want to be is close to you;
There’s ecstasy and peace in your embrace.
I know that I can cope with what life brings,
As long as I wake up to see your face.

You’re all I ever wanted, and much more.
I look at you and I still get a thrill.
Our marriage is the best thing in my life;
I love you deeply, madly, and I always will.
 
 
Every Year

Every year that I'm with you
Has been better than before;
It's hard for me to even think
How I could love you more.


Every year you've graced my life
Has been full of happiness;
I love your caring face, your voice,
Your tender, sweet caress.


Every year when this day comes,
I'm filled with love and pleasure;
Happy Anniversary, Love,
My joy, my delight, my treasure.


 
So Much Time, So Much Love

So much time has passed, my love,
since we met and married,
so much love each hour, day and minute.
Passion, yes, and also
tender looks, casual caresses, fond words
filling my memories with pleasure forever.
With you, sweetheart, every year,
every anniversary, is the best one yet.
 

Friday, 21 January 2011

Ganatha Manam

The most luckiest person is the world is the one who is loved the most.. And the worst life is for the one who is dejected the most.. The most troublesome life is for the one who fights for love.. And the most pittiest life is for the one who longs for love..

Thinking of the days when i was surrounded by friends all around with genuine love and affection... i used to feel so greedy for that.. May be for all those i am longing now.. How nice if i can rewind back to those old days.. life was with no much responsibilities.. no much commitments.. no such compromises.. oh my god.. sweet were those days... Countable good pals.. (Nancy,Rajee..).. May be the so much of love and affection showed by them make me long for the same kind now??? dunno.. Miss my friends a lot..

Got to hear this song today.. lovely lyrics

Vaazhkai Oru Vaanam Pola


Uravu Athil Megam Pola

Natpu Matum Suriyan Pola

Nanban Vaazhga

Petravargal Arinthathai Vidavum

Matravargal Therinthathai Vidavum

Mutrum Enai Purinthathu Natpu

Natpu Vaazhga

Aanum Pennum,Pennum Aanum

Kaakum Karpu Nalla Natpu

Vaa Thozha Oh My Friend

Ennai Manushienra

Muthal Manithan Nee

Vaa Thozhi Oh My Friend!

Ennai Manithanenra

Muthal Manushi Nee



Megak Kootil Thuligal Aanom

Engu Vandhu Nathigal Aanom

Orumai Inge Panmaiyanom

Panmai Koodi Orumaiyanom

Minnal Vanthal Megam Kudakkizhinthu Poogum

Vaanam Enrum Kizhithal Ilaye

Vaanam Pole Engal Natpum Vaazhthirukume

Maalai Nizhal Pol Valarum Pantham

Mayangi Mayangi Magilum Nenjam



Kallaippola Arpamanen

Natpinale Sirpamanen

Netruvaraiyil Pulliyanen

Ungalaley Vaarthaiyanen

Konda Acham Koocham Vitu Odivitathe

Ithu Anbin Anmai Thanthathe

Nenjil Vanjam Vanmam Elam Maarivitathe

Paarai Manasu Pazhuthu Vitathe

Pantha Paasam Purinthu Vitathe


Only wish is for a kind shoulder to lean on, lovely words to hear through, caring hands to hold, gentle touch to feel and endless love to pour..

Wednesday, 3 November 2010

DD Says Happy Bday Appa

The most awaiting time has arrived. DD started framing sentences and able to repeat what we say. Great to hear that mazhalai.. Luv u sweety.. She is very keen to learn things nowadays.. Though i got her a set of books to read when she is interested 3-4months back.. Never insisted her to study.. I wanted her to get the habit to study on her own rather than being pushed to learn things..

She is now all set go to read and learn new things.. started picking up the books she wanna read and ask someone to teach for her.. She gets very much excited when she is able to repeat what we say... She says A for Apple, B for Ball, C for Cat, D for Doggie, E for Egg, F for Fish.. only this much would be clear :-) others would be in her own language in own world where no one can understand it.. Luv to hear u saying that sweety.. Wanna know the extend she loves books.. here is the pic..

See how cute she is hugging the book and sleeping. So pretty sweety.. Luv u tons..

If any elderly people look into this picture they will kill me as they will always they that we should never take picture of a kid when they sleep..

Wanna capture this moment so skipped the myth.. :-)

The book is on Safety.. she can now relate things to the environment.. For example say there is a picture in the book as "Stay away when you burst crackers". When we were bursting crackers last day for time pass she was holding it all away saying it "Amma suttudum !!"
So proud of you sweety..

She started missing her dad... she is saying as "Appa Kanom", "Appa Office", "Appa poyitta" kind of words in middle of sleep.. She might not be able to express things as we do.. sometimes takes his dress and say appa.. May be that is the way of her to express it.

She very Keenly look into what we do and try to imitate that.. say keeping bindi.. keeping kumkum.. combing hair.. keeping clip.. appling cream.. wearing specs.. etc.,

All that we do she wanna do it for her too.. she is going crazy nowadays for bindi and kammal.. Just see how nicely she is wearing specs of mine..


For sarawathi pooja made her wear paavadai sattai.. and took her to temple.. she is the most enjoyable person to go to temple.. she is used to going to temple with mom especially and along with dad occassionally. Had gud time in temple and good darshan as well.. DD in paavadai sattai making her doll to sleep :-)
DD was so happy to see her dad once he was back. Then i realised how much she missed him though she wasnt able to communicate it back. DD was enjoying being with her dad with all the toys bought for her.

She goes crazy for books and her dad got her a learning kit as per her wiish. she started reading it from the first day since she got that. :-)

Wednesday, 13 October 2010

How much i miss u

I want to hold your hands and walk a mile
dont want to miss u, even a while

My life is so beautiful coz
Dear, its you.. My LIFE

Hug me for my worries to die
my tears to dry and
my loneliness to fly

It hurts me to know
how i sometimes can be little selfish
when it comes to you

I am getting sentimental over you !
for god sake explain me why all these.

I miss you every moment of the day,
I keep me awake just to listen you,
I keep me empty just for you to fill,
I keep me alive just to see you.

My mornings miss you,
my evenings seeks you
Where were you all these days,
why you werein there to wipe my tears.

Fear of future is worse than pain of the past
still i bother the least, coz u are there

even seconds are too long to miss you
I want to hold your hands & walk a mile
dont want to miss u, even a while

Thursday, 2 September 2010

Sri Krishna Jayanthi

After very long writing a post again..

New job.. New environment and new stuffs to learn out.. Life is different now..
Yes.. i am into Dell now..

Good environment and very flexibile manager i have ever seen..

This is what i expected.. Hope to give my best in work part as well as be able to spend time with DD.. Yesterday was Krishna Jayanthi.. As it was leave for me decided to celebrate it in a grand way..

Wanna put Krishna make up to DD but somehow missed in the last minute as she didnt have enough hair..

Mom slogged from morning in preparing the necessary things.. i did help her in making murukku and seedai.. Sankar came by eve and we started with pooja.. It is very nice to have such a celebrations as part of our life.. its completely relaxing and pretty good change of mind as well.. Good to keep up our culture..

The time after pooja was the nice time.. Very nice to have Savitha's new born to be the first one (Krishan) to enter home.. Was very happy to invite them and serve them sweets..

Later all the neighbour childrens came.. It was a nice occasion.. DD was pretty happy.. The krishnan paadham came out very well and was very nice celebration.. Here is DD's pics after many months

Wednesday, 28 April 2010

Back Street Boys

Got to hear this song after so long... My all time favourite..

I really miss you, there's something I gotta say

The things we did, the things we said
Keep comin' back to me and make me smile again
You showed me how to face the truth
Everything that's good in me I owe to you

Though the distance that's between us
Now may seem to be too far
It will never separate us
Deep inside, I know you are

Chorus:
Never gone, never far
In my heart is where you are
Always close, everyday
Every step along the way
Even though for now we've got to say goodbye
I know you would be forever in my life (yeah!)
Never gone

No, no, no, no

I walk along these empty streets
There is not a second you're not here with me
The love you gave, the grace you've shown
Will always give me strength and be my cornerstone

(Somehow) somehow you found a way
To see the best I have in me
As long as time goes on
I swear to you that you will be

Chorus:
Never gone, never far
In my heart is where you are
Always close (always close), everyday (everyday yeah)
Every step along the way
Even though for now we've got to say goodbye
I know you would be forever in my life (in my life, yeah)

Never gone (gone from me)
If there's one thing I believe (I believe)
I will see you somewhere down the road again
(I will see you somewhere, somewhere, somewhere, somewhere)

(Never gone) Never gone, never far
In my heart is where you are
Always close (always close, always close), everyday (everyday, everyday)
Every step along the way
Even though for now we've got to say goodbye (yeah, yeah)
I know you would be forever in my life

Never gone, never far
In my heart is where you are (in my heart is where you are)
Always close (always close), everyday (everyday)
Every step along the way

Never gone, never far
In my heart is where you are

Tuesday, 27 April 2010

How does care matters in ones life???

How are you dear?? howz things going in ur end?
Why do we feel good when we hear these kinda lines from someone?

Did u have ur meal? Go and have proper food on time??
Though we feed ourselves for our hunger we long for these words isnt it??

Dont worry dear.. everything would be for good.. u will succeed..
How does these simple words gear up all our energy.. whats the magic beside that??

Take care of your health dear.. sleep on time..
Why is this the best medicine when you feel ill??

Love you so much dear.. will be there for you always..
Why these words values the world for oneself??

Dont strain urself dear.. i will do it for you..
How these concern makes you feel great???

Come home soon dear.. i am waiting for you..
what makes to rush up to reach home??

Miss you so much dear.. feel like seeing you..
Why do we wish to be near the loved one when we hear so??

IS this is what is called as care?? If it is so then we are we so stingy to show it to our loved ones? why do we meagerly use these words.. why are we not generous in saying that we care for someone.. It makes both feel great.. Giving love is the best feeling than getting it.. If one has not experienced it till now.. Try it today.. Try it this minute.. You shall fell the bang on experience...

Tuesday, 20 April 2010

Heavy Heart and Light Brain

I really wonder how these two tiny organs plays its importance in a persons life..
How it manages the overall mood of a person..
How it organizes things to do..
How it directs to tackle problems..
How it relates to manage things..
How it takes over the knowledge..
How it reacts to things..
How it decides on which is right and wrong..

Tough it is said brain is the one which controls the overall moves of a person, It is the heart which dominates in its action most of the times..

Many a times for many a things though we prefer brain to take the role of decision maker it is the heart which wins the bid.. But one thing of sure is that the decision taken from heart and not the brain may not always be correct.. It may end up in quite many troubles..

We.. emotional idiots leave the right to heart and end up in hurting oneself.. Tough too small.. shall feel the heaviness of huge mountain..

Brain though it works round the clock, it does it work on its own way causing no hurdle to anyone.. The work it does is bulk but we always feel it light..

Which is taking precedence in ones life makes much a difference.. If a person knows to control them then on no day it would be a heavy heart and a light brain..

How to say how much i love u...


You mean the world to me
You are everything to me
Just to hold you close
To feel your loving embrace
Makes me smile and feel loved inside
You have my heart and shall keep it forever
You have the password to my soul
You are the missing piece of the puzzle that shall make me whole
I love you with all my heart
Words cannot describe how i feel
To be apart from you for just a short time
Tears away at me inside
But as soon as i see your beautiful face
And just have one bittersweet kiss
The pain inside me vanishes and is no more
I feel you are my one true love
My reason to live on
Without you I would break
Just shatter into pieces
And float away in the wind
You are the reason that i wake each day
So I hope and pray that you will stay..

Friday, 5 March 2010

Character Difference of a Men and Women

There are some things which comes out in nature.. There is no point in cribbing on it.. Though it is easy to narrate its damn tough to implement in one's life..

Though we say guys and girls are same in all means there are many characters and behavious which makes a vast difference between a women and men..

One thing which everyone shall accept is..
Guys are materialistic.. girls are emotional.. (Not all)

Guys always think to earn for thier family for a wealthy life..
Wanna get things to make thier family members happy..
Wanna bring the family to a good standard in the society..
Very Sincere in thier work..
Very curious in thier decision..
Much firm in thier thoughts..
Very stingy in expressing love..

Girls are oppisite in all means..

They want thier spouse to spend time and be with her more than thier money..
She does things to make him happy.. Dresses for him.. cooks what he like.. etc.,
Thinks of how to bring the family to a good position (not based on wealth but on social activities)
Girls are equally sincere to men in work.. but more than anything family is important for them..
Very decisive not to hurt others even if it bothers them..
Very much fluctuating in deciding things
They express love the most and expect the same from partner..

A thing which look very silly for a man means a world to a women...
Deciding on which is silly and which is valuable differs from a man and women


These are few of the habbitual difference between men and women.. Even it is all acceptable and everyone is aware of it..

No one can stop the following things,

Husband always coming late home when wife expects him to be near her..
Wife always cribbing on he being workaholic..
Men love thier kids until and unless they dont trouble them.. they have very less patience to be with them for long..
Men love to get things done at home but without taking any responsibilities on thier own..
Women takes it more to the extend she cannot fulfill all..


This article is not to say that Men are arrogant and women are soft.. There are few facts though everyone is aware no one is ready to accept it..

Miss you sweety... :-(

Got to have a look at a blog today..

I thought its only me who does this kinda blogging to record the stages of my cute princess.. great to see one more..

Felt like writing one for my dear..

The thing which is more clear on this is mothers feeling towards thier child is same for whoever it is..

Let it be any conversation.. Let it be any thought..
Let it be any place i visit..Let it be any things i see..
i started relating everything with my sweety..

Whenever i speak something.. i started adding up a phrase as.. "Hey u know what my  daughter did today??.. blah blah blah...

Whenever i think of doing something.. i always end up in doing something for her..
Let it be getting her a toy.. Or what can be done to make her eat.. etc.,

Whenever i see some place.. visit some place..
my thoughts roam around on how it  would have been if Divya is around me.. She started enjoying places now.. She loves to go for an outing.. Miss u sweety..
After tiring day of work am not able to take u for a walk everyday.. Am so sorry for that...

Whenever i see a girl of paapa's age i start noticing the kind of dress and style of them and imagine how Divya will look on the same.. What if i buy her this.. Will she be like this when she is grown up??

My mind is full of her.. Even when i work splash of her thoughts run around me always.. Love u so much sweety.. missing u very much..

I was not there to enjoy her first crawl...
I was not there to hear her uttering her first word "Amma"....
I was not there to cherish her first walk..
I was not there to see all her mischieves..

I wonder whether she miss me as i do.. Thank god that she had got her thaatha paati to play with.. to care her with..  I am very unlucky that i couldnt stay with you dear all the day long to care you..

Tears pierce out whenever i think of this.. Hope she will understand this.. Hope she will feel my love.. Hope she will not long for love.. Luv u so much sweetheart.. i dont know how to express it to you..

My tears will show my love towards you... Miss u so much dear...

Friday, 22 January 2010

Veeta Katti paaru... Kalyanam Panni paaru...

Periyavunga ezhudhi vacha pazha mozhi ovvondrum anubhavathaal ezhudhi vachirukkanga... We realize those only when we really get into it. There is a very famous saying as

"Veeta Katti Paaru.. Kalyanatha Panni Paaru.."

We are really recognizing the pain with which it is said. Though it is a sweet pain for some good cause, they have really meant these words..

It was a dream of us to build our own house (Each and every one have this dream). We initially started searching for a site to construct an individual house. Myself and Sankar was not interested in owning an apartment. we wanted to construct a small and cute house for our own choice. We searched for around two months and noticed that most of the sites in bangalore are not the registered ones and lots of forgery that was done in real estate. On no way we wanna give a chance for that to happen in our case and as no one at home
knows to speak Kannada its tough to manage if it is a individual house. And we cannot commit ourself more on the construction in the other state.

Later point of time we decided that for the situation now, apartment is the fine choice and the safest choice. Our initial budget was not more than 25L. We searched in and around the places we are in. We were surprised to see the cost and the construction quality of many of the apartments. Out criteria of search was very simple, it should not be outside the city, should be easily commutable and should have a school and hospital nearby. The search for apartment went around for 3 months and Sankar was not satisfied with any of the ones. I was ready to compromise with something but Sankar was very specific in his needs.

We got to see an advertisement on the apartment for sale in Koramangala 8th block. Sankar was very much interested on the place and he was already staying in that area. Koramangala is one of the Posh location in bangalore. We had a look into the apartment and it was in a good location and the apartment was in the bazaar. Though we can see some slums near by the location of the apartment was quite good. The price even was not too high for that area. We managed to select a small apartment as we dont wanna get more loan.

We booked the flat by June 2009 and the builder promised that the flat would be ready by Jan. These were the time in which we understood how tough is building a house. Though all the pain is taken care by the builder. Myself and sankar was very much tired and engaged in looking after the work over the weekends. Sankar wanted the best of all things in a affordable price and we planned and selected things as per our wish.

Made what all the modifications we wanted in our flat. Took away the balconies in kitchen as well as the master bed room. Made the kitchen wall half open. wanted to have a breakfast table there. Changed the provision of TV cabinet to the opposite side. We made the changes what all we felt to look good. The block work completion was over by august and the builder started the plastering work soon. The fixing of the window frames and door frames was done and the plastering of the flat was over by Oct. Our next decision
would be the interior. we decided not to spend more on the interior but wanted to do the best. Firstly we planned to bring people from Karur. Later we decided to book someone here.


Meantime the loan was released from the bank after lots of trouble. It was very painful for us to get the loan from CanFin homes though we went through a mediator called Nagaraju. The delay in loan processing lead to many misunderstanding between the builder and us. The loan was released sometime in oct and we started with paying the interest alone.


The next work to start is the tiling work. Initially we decided to put the tiles which buidler is offering. but after viewing some of the sample flats with the tiles which he used we wanna go out for the tiles as per our wish. We concluded to go to Nitco tiles as we felt branded ones would be of good quality and we decided upon our tiles for the two bath room. Even this tile selection got lot of confusion  as the tile delivery was not on time and tile count mismatch and tile color mismatch etc..

Dad supervised the house during th tiling work. The bathroom's were the first place to get tiled up and it came out good. Next was the floor tile, even that came out as we expected. Somehow our selection went wrong in the Kitchen tile. It looked good when we saw it in the showroom but it didt come out well as we expected once the plastering was done. Even sankar's parents were not happy with the tiles. To compensate that we selected the borders for it and it became quite wide and the place for cupboard work was reduced.


Siva, our next flat owner became a very good friend of us and we enquired him on the interior person. He was familiar with a guy who did interior for his friend and he trusted that his work was good. We did call the person for estiamting our house for the work we asked for. He said the price to be around 2.5 Lakhs. we felt it to be too high and beyond our budget and we roamed around to see other peoples. But looking into the workmanship of other carpenters, we felt even if the cost is high the work would be good if we do with  the interior named Amith and called him back for the deal. The deal was made ok and we put the agreement for the interior work in a day or two.

Sankar though he does things as per his wish he always gives more values to others view on the things he does. The same goes with the house. He always asks others whether the flat is good. Is it looking so small.. like that and get worried on hearing others views. I always say him to do things as per his wish as we are the peoples who are  gonna stay in the home and not the others. He always feels bad for the kitchen tile selection. But i felt it was ok. once the cupboard work is done it would be looking good.

The putty work for the house was done in short time and the window doors were fixed. The main door was placed. We did have pooja for the same sometime in November. Athai, maama, thambi and Rathi came from karur and the pooja went fine placing the main door in a good time putting all the navarathnam and things underneth.

The cupboard work started in december. When the basic frame work was started we felt the cupboard work is very less and doubted whether this storage would be sufficient for keeping our things (we still have that thought). Selected the sheet color. I preffered to have it as per sankar's wish as his selection would always be good. The T.V panel came out very nice. The cupboard for both the rooms were done and we decided to have an extra shelf in the kitchen for the Oven. Once the lamination work was done with the combination of sheets we selected it came out very well. The house looked neat and the cupboard work didnt supress the size of the house.

Next was the decision on the house warming. I wanted to have it in January as it was Thai maasam. Sankar was not at all interested to have it in jan as the house work was not compelte and he felt reluctant to call his office peoples to have a look at the flat. I was not bothered on all those things. My only intension was to have it on a good day as we need to spend the rest of our life there and paapa has to be brought up in that house. Atlast Sankar accepted to have it in January as decided during the trip to Karur on new year.

The house warming day was decided and i wanted to have pathirikkai printed as this was the first occasion we ourself is doing and it ended up in lot of problems. Atlast all the problem was sorted out and the pathirikai was distributed to our close relatives and friends. Sankar and me roamed around to invite people and arrange for lodging and lunch for the peoples to come in. We booked rooms in Sri Grand Krishna a posh n neat hotel and arranged food in Mouli's catering. It was pongal that time and we celebrated pongal in our house in bangalore for the first time. This was the first pongal with Divya. Pooja at home went on well. Ordered for the new stove and chimney. Wanted to get the chimney fixed on that day but somehow they were not able to make it as it was pongal.

House warming is on Jan 18th but we decided to bring people here a day before and send them for sight seeing. As decided everyone started by 16th night (friday) and reached bangalore by 17th morning(saturday). Arranged for sight seeing that morning in Sri Sakthi travels. Received all of them that morning and rushed to catch the bus after getting freshed up. We cooked and packed the lunch for that noon as they may not like the food of karnataka. Jana maama and maami was about to reach bangalore. I was very happy that they are coming to our house warming. Received them on the way and welcomed them home. They decided to stay at home rather than in hotel.

We collected up all the necessary things needed for the pooja. Most of them were brought from Karur itself which made things very easy. Listed out the missed out things and we brought all the fruits needed from Madiwala market. Dad and maama went to City market to get the flowers needed. Atlast everything was brought and things are in place. Ayyar for  the next day pooja reached bangalore late and booked a room for them to stay. We are supposed to have a pooja on Jan 17th night and made things ready and started to our new home. We picked up the poojaries on the way and reached home. After reaching home they made thigns ready and we need to do vastu pooja then. We started rushing for things here and there and it was all arranged  up. The pooja started around 10 P.M. They did pooja in a good way and Ramireddy (the builder's supervisor) was with us doing all the things which masthiri was supposed to do. Vastu pooja was done on the corridor thanking all the grahas and Vasthu bhagavan for the land and to purify the place. It was almost 11 P.M when all the pooja was over. We turned abck home and rushed to sleep as we need to get up early and was damn tired.

People who went for sight seeing reached very late as thier shopping and stuffs took lot of time, that night we didnt have anyone to help us and it was all we managed to do things. Ran between the ground floor and 2nd floor hundred's of times. Intimated them to get ready by 5 the next morning for the pooja.

We kept alarm by 3 A.M but was very tired to get up. Athai was the first person to take bath and get ready and next was my mom. I decided to go next as i need to get Divya ready. Wore pattu saree and took things needed for Divya(milk, dress etc.,) by the time everyone was ready sankar lost his patience and started shouting as it was very late. We left Dad and Jana maama at home and started first. Asked them to come in auto later. Picked the poojaries on the way and reached our new flat.

The pooja was started and we both were asked to sit in the pooja and it went on smoothly. divya was with us for sometime and then started crying due to the smoke with come out of the yaaga kuntam. we were asked to change the dress, the wore the new pattu saree and sankar in pattu vetti sattati.. he was looking very pretty in that. i love to see him that way. Wore new dress to divya as well. Milk was boiled in good time and We sat in the pooja and after 1-2 hours the pooja was over. Got good money from relatives and morning breakfast was ready by that time.

One  by one everyone started with thier breakfast and it was good. Jana maama and Maami wanna leave as maama was not well. Gave them send off and sent dad along wit them to house to take thier luggages. All the relatives had thier breakfast. Sankar and me was waiting for our friends to clear off the breakfast buffet. Senthil came first and then comes Siva, Prabu and saravanan. Dalou rushed in the last moment and gave the gift and turned back without having the bfast.

Started clearing things and cleaning the house. Our office friends are supposed to come by 12.30 that noon. Sankar and me sat for sometime after a long tiring day and started setting up the things ready.

Sankar's office friends reached first and they had a visit at the flat.Sankar was very curious to hear thier comments and it was all positive. Sankar started with the lunch and all his office friends had thier lunch. Meanwhile Divya and Jyothi reached the flat and received them to the flat. They looked around the flat
and in shorttime my teammates from oracle came in. Received them and took them to the flat. It was all in a mess at that time. Dont know whom to receive and with whom to go. Was scared whether will miss to treat someone well. Offered lunch for the friends in office and i joined with them. Relatives started having thier lunch then. I was very happy that Karthik and Dupati joined for lunch. Sankar and me was very relaxed only then that the function went on well and offered the remaining lunch to the labours in the flat.

In sometime People from karur started packing up things to go back home. Someone need to stay at home. Sankar and me decided to stay that night. I was damn tired as i climbed the stairs so many times. Was surprised to see sankar active as he was a weak person. Reached home by 3 that evening. All helped to get the things reach home and settled up the things. Sankar's relatives started back to karur. We rested for sometime. Evening wanted to settle up money for the people from whom we rented the tent and chairs. We went to flat to meet Kailash and Siva his office friends and turned back home soon.

After dinner, we dont wanna let divya stay in the new home as she may not be comfortable sleeping in the mat in the cold breeze. I packed up things like mat and bedsheet to stay there that night. We both wanted to sleep badly as we were very tired. Arranged up things to sleep but was very cold and couldnt sleep at all. Spoke upon things for sometime and slept as such. When we woke up it was 7.30 and rushed to home locking the flat.

Still more to go.. May take two more months for the completion.

Wednesday, 23 December 2009

For my Sweetheart..

How to say how much i love u dear..
Looks as just married and now its gonna be around 2 years..
Love remains the same.. care doubles the count..
Days are running so fast.. so many memorable moments in our life..

I still remember our first sight.. Jan20th..07
It was a nice conversation in a day or two..
Decided my life to surrender it to you..
The month Jan is special to me..so as i got u and Divya..

Soon was the marriage.. Days were less still better was our understanding..
Nothing less i know about you.. the same goes well for you and me..
Freaked some days here and there.. treasurable are the moments that we shared..
Though the time was meger.. Felt as if i lived years with you..

Lovely are the moments i spend with you..
Lucky is me to get such a person like you..
Love you to the extend no words can say..
Long way to go with you near by..

Great is the instant of our sweet angel..
i still remember the cute little bud..
Too small to hold.. too pretty to see..
She is to turn up 1 year soon.. I cant believe my eyes..
But need to realize the fact..

Many the times i fight with you..
Its all of love i have on you..
So much to say that i love you..
Silly things end up in shouting at you..

You work so hard to earn us things..
Will never say 'No' for all my wish..
Hide your wish to get mine done..
You dream so high.. to reach the sky..
wish you best in all ur endeavor..

I wish ever.. we live happily..
With egoless life for life-time..
Sure to do best for our Kid..
Lead a life fair for all..

Monday, 7 December 2009

Divya Mottai

Divya Mottai

Was waiting for this day.. This is the first function for Divya after her punniyadhanam. Divya afforded her hair to Palani murugar.

From the time of her birth, Divya had a dark, soft hair. she look very pretty with her hair washed. She herself used to look at the mirror and enjoy the flow of her hair. She is 11 months old when counted in tamil months this nov-dec and we decided to shave of her head. As per the custom of Sankar's house the first mottai should be in palani.

Divya's hair grown pretty much and we were not able to trim it even as it was to be sacrificed for god.We planned for this trip a month back and the date was fixed to be Nov 29th. I was thrilled to see her face without hair.

We started to karur on friday night (Nov 28th). It was quite late when we started from home, somehow managed to reach on time but fortunatly bus was delayed for 30 mins. Divya slept by that time. Meanwhile
got a call from athai saying that maama is not well. Felt guddy that evening and was taken to hospital. It was diagonized to be food poison. Sankar was very tensed hearing that and we reached home early
morning by around 4 A.M. Some politician expired in car accident and it seems to be a banth last day in Karur. Every channel in T.V telecasted that and the whole city was resilence that day.


The living room was bigger for her to crawl and roam around. She was enjoying her walk



We wanted to go to Chennai silks for getting Pattu paavadai for sweety. Was not sure whether the shops would be open or not. Somehow myself, sankar, paapa and dad started that evening after lunch and reached
there around 4. Dad was supposed to buy and give dress for we three :-). We selected a meroon colour paavadai sattai with mustard colored border. It was looking good on her. I was looking for some cotton dress for her for daily use. We could get one one goood one and took that for her. Next we went to take dress for Sankar, it was the one which took more time. Sankar always hesitate to take dress for him. Someone has to compel him. As usual i was complelling him to take one and after a long struggle he selected one shirt of green color. It was a good one. Atlast we started leaving down. next was my turn. I dont wanna go for sarees as i am wearing them rarely. we decided tot ake readymade salwars. i dont wanna go for a very costly one rather wanted to take two three sets. Its very tough to select a pair which is liked by both sankar and me. atlast found a designer salwar around 1000 bucks. Sankar wanted me to take a good one rather than going for many cheaper ones. Dad said to take one more salwar and that killed much of our time. Divya slept by that time and we atlast concluded one dress in peach color(Datd's selection) a sleek one.. atlast purchase was over and we went back home.

It was planned to start by 7 A.M the next morning and we went early to bed. I was not getting sleep properly that night and woke up early and started packing things for DD. Took all the dresses and stuffs needed for her and kept things aligned. Woke up divya and made her bath. Fed her one Idli. Everyone of us had breakfast by 7.30 and was getting ready. Cab was delayed by then. We took a couple of snaps by that time



This is a good snap taken by me :-). See how nice her hair is, soft curly one .

Wanted a family photo of we three alone and this came out good




We were supposed to take maama's office vehicle but in last minute it was cancelled to avoid unnecessary questions for officials. Sankar noticed it only in the last minute and was upset for that. The alternative for the Bolero was Maruthi Omni which Sankar hate the most. It was very uncomfortable for us to sit in that vehicle and we managed to reach maariamman temple in that vehicle. had a good darshan and started our trip in Bolero as per sankar's wish.

We took a way of Aravakurichhi where maama is a Thasildar. We traversed a different route than that of the bypass which is more in distance. The passage was very nice full of green and wealthy stuffs. Maama
arranged for darshan in Palani and it would be very crowded due to Sabarimala season and Kaarthigai maasam. He was getting calls continuosly on that. We reached a devastana place where we need to put mottai for Divya. I was so thrilled to see on how she will react to it. she was sleeping till that time and we woke her up for mottai. It has to be done before 12 P.M. it was 11.50 by the time everything was ready and atlast able to make out by 11.55

She was made to sit only dad's lap and she kept her head down on the knees of the person who was shaving her head. Was so surprised to see her not crying at all and that person did a fair job leaving no cuts. We were been to a place where Divya and dad took bath and freshened up. Meanwhile Rathi's dad was on board and we picked him up on the way. We spread Sandal all over her head to make it cool. Made her wear the new paavadai sattai and she was looking pretty in mottati. She was rather tired as she didnt sleep properly the last two days.
This was the snap taken during mottai. She started crying after seeing us glaring at her




We reached the rope car station and it was very highly corded, it seems like it will take around 3 hours to reach top of malai. Palani Thasildar's person was with us but even then we couldnt make out in ropecar as it was shutdown for 2 Hrs. We decided to go by train and reached that place. With the help of that person we could enter the special quota, Maama's car driver helped a lot for our darshan. The person who guided had some urgent personal work so gave us a pass to be given in temple for darshan and he left. Driver and his friend was with us to guide and to reach temple fast. This was the snap taken when we were waiting there.



After waiting for 1 hr or so we entered the train and reached the top of hill. It was very cold when we reached the place. The climate was excellent and the garden they have maintained was very cool. Everyone was very hungry by that time and reached a hotel in top of hill. Meals was over then and we had only sambar saadam and thayir saadam and vadai. It was an excellent food and myself and sankar had stomach full of lunch.

We stepped inside the temple with excitement to see lord muruga. This is the second time we are coming to this temple with Paapa. We had been there once when we had been to Karur for thambi's marriage. Divya is so lucky that she is coming for the second time to my favourtie god's temple :-). I always chant the word Muruga for what all my doings.  It got habituated from my childhood. We saw many monkeys on the way and was showing Divya all those and entered the entrance. It took quite sometime to reach the devasthanam. The temple was very crowded and thanks to maama that he arranged ofr darshan else it would have been very tough for us to manage with kid. In quite sometime we are near moolasthanam and we were made to wait for 5 mins for special darshan. Our turn came and we were allowed to sit near the karbakragam and it was a wonderful experience for the second time in my life. We had a very nice darshan and we all surrendered ourself to god. Divya was very happy to see the god and she was posing her hands as if she is praying. The Second occasion of Divya after her 11th day punniyadhanam was this and it was a good trip. We missed Sankar's brothers family as they couldnt make out for the trip.

We reached back home by around 7 P.M. wanted to visit Baby's house and Mangai's house. We started by 7.30 again and visited Mangai's house first. Divya was not going to her at all. Sometimes she behaves so. Cant help it,  it was a quick visit and we gave them prasadam and started to baby's house. We had been there for sometime and Divya was playing with Baby nd we noticed that she liked Good day biscuit. Even this was a quick visit and we turned back home around 9 P.M. It was a whole tiring day and had dinner and slept soon.

Wednesday, 11 November 2009

Lines on Work & Family balance..

Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends and integrity. And you're keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

The other four balls -- family, health, friends, integrity -- are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered. And once you truly understand the lesson of the five balls, you will have the beginnings of balance in your life.

--- From James Patterson’s "Suzanne’s Diary For Nichola"

Nowadays i feel life to be more mechanical.. No one has time to spend with Family and Friends. The relation is not intense with the family as it was used to be before. Everyone is busy with thier own things.. let it be the career, or the wishes, or the goals..

Necessity of a man and a women differs.. Lets take an example... If a man suffers from head ache he prefers to take a pill and solve the issue off.. But if a women suffers head ache she expects her husband to caress her and apply pain balm.

Though there are two ways of resolving an issue, Its hard to predict which is the correct resolution. The wishes of a man and women are different. Girls are very emotional and are to be handled carefully.. Let it be a plus or minus of them.

Especially the working women's expectation on her man is quite different. She do goes to work as he does. She cares the children at home. She takes care of the home. She gets involved with the family needs. With all these a meger lovely time with the soul partner is very necessary. Instead which life is nothing for her. Its upto a husband and wife to understand thier roles and allocate time so that both the family and work are taken care of.

As said in the quote, we can find an alternative job, We can get a better career, We can get a better environment but the family and youth will never be turned back. If peoples get used to be without you then gaining importance for yourself will become very tough at later point of time.

Monday, 9 November 2009

Worthy lines in a pic from pravsworld.com.. My favourite

"Believe in yourself and your values,
dont see out when things go wrong.
Dont let anything get you down,
always bound back up

Set goals for your future,
never settle for anything less.
Realize that there are others in the world,
with much bigger problems than you.

Appreciate the good things in your life,
and be thankful for the time.
You have with your loved ones,
spend more time with your family and friends.

Appreciate the simple things in life,
and don't get caught up in material things."


Though quite many a times i read this phrase. I can never follow it all the time.

I never believe in myself and my values. Easily i go down. Even a single word would do.

I do agree on the second phrase that there are peoples who have other problems which is much worser than mine but measuring which is big or small on what context is made on what basis??

Till today i am thankful for what all i get. End of the day i get the best of everything. But enjoying that is a big Question mark. Spending time with family and friends.. ha ha ha ... shhhhhhhhh.... no comments....

We always think on the materialistic things.. i want this.. i want that... i dont have this.. and we always regret things rather than enjoying with what we have.. thatz human nature.. very few can come out of it..


Wednesday, 4 November 2009

27th B'Day

27th B'Day

Sankar made my B'Day very very special. As it was on Saturday we were able to spend time together.

Friday Night

As sankar's bike was on repair, he is to come back home by Auto on Friday night. We both planned to start at the same time so that we reach home together. By the time i reached home it was 7 P.M. I expected Sankar to be at home by that time but i couldnt find him till 8 P.M. As he didnt take his mobile to office that day called him many a times to office number but no one was picking the call. Meanwhile was playing with Divya. Time ran so fast. He reached home around 8.30 with cake in hand. I wanted to get him a cake on his bday and as he didnt wanted it i didnt buy. May be thats the reason he bought it for me. Sankar wanted to stay awake till 12 but as Divya has to sleep we went to bed soon. Its surprising that he kept alarm for wishing. I was very happy to see him to be so curious to wish me. It is after so long i am seeing him this way. He said me that he has ordered for a puppy and a bouquet and will be delivered at 12 A.M. Though i coudnt trust it the way in which he hyped it made me to believe that. With some kind of expectation i was about to sleep.



Midnight Surprise

Alarm rang around 11.55 P.M and Sankar took a pouch from his bag and gave it to me. It was a very nice pouch in lavender color. Inside which i could see a gift wrapped. I couldnt really guess what it is and opened up very eagerly. Was damn surprised to see it to be a pearl ring in gold. I had a craze of buying a gold ring with pearl. But couldnt exactly make it. I dont know  how Sankar knows it and it was a pretty surprise for me. It was an unexpected gift. Never expected that i will get it that day. Thanked Sankar for the gift. Rajee called by that time for B'day wish.



31st Oct - My Bday

Woke up early in the morning with Bday wishes from friends.
Started a fresh day by cutting cake with Divya. Sankar got a
black forest cake. It was after college days i am cutting cake. It was very nice and we planned the day to go to tiles shop to select tiles for our new house and later going to temple in the evening. The day went on smoothly and it is an unforgettable day for me. Thanks to Sankar for making it so.


Sankar wanted to take a snap with DD. This was the one taken in the corridor. I love this snap. Both are looking good in this :-)

Divya and me cutting cake together